Together with a
new-religious aspect in the form of a worldview this time, p.2 of this
investigation (as a whole, aptly written essay form), will show how in
addition, the folklore process fits in here.
One is in the writing
of the books. Though some books of popular nonfiction are strikingly original
in tone or voice, the process involved in their composition can be compared to
the performance of highly formulaic folklore, such as the epic. Like the griot
singing an epic, the writer of a self-help book makes use of certain
traditional resources and combines them in ways that have come to be expected
by the audience or reader. Self-help books are formulaic and didactic; that is,
they all follow a basic pattern of critique and solution. Other kinds of
popular literature are often compared to folklore because of their formulaic
nature-romances, mysteries, adventure stories, rags-to-riches sagas. But, as we
saw in chapter 2, there is no one predictable style or subtype of popular nonfiction.
Self-help books take a variety of forms-some parables or framed stories, some
sequential steps in a guidebook, some analytical segments built upon a
well-known text, some a series of short essays expanding upon a list of
insights or themes. The formulaic structure of self-help books is more
abstract, tied as it is to the overarching objective of teaching the reader to
replace fearful and ineffective thinking and behavior with insight and
acceptance of reality along with love and confidence and its many positive
effects. However, many other elements of the books are more concrete and
clearly traditional, and these other traditional elements are significant in
our understanding of how writers create rhetorically effective self-help books.
If I were concerned
only with the process of writing such books, we could move immediately to a
discussion of what these traditional elements are and how they figure in the
process of composition. In fact, chapters 5, 6, and 7 do exactly that; they
examine the proverbs or sayings, the stories, and the traditional beliefs used
in popular nonfiction. But my focus here is not simply on the authors and their
performances as reflected in the variety of selfhelp
books-or texts-examined in this study. Rather, an equally important question
asks how these books are used by readers in their efforts to build a personal
philosophy. This question highlights a second way the folklore process is
implicated in the study of popular nonfiction. And, strangely, it is a question
that strains our current understanding of what is meant by the "folklore
process."
Normally, folklorists
engage in ethnographic research in an effort to address how "artistic
communication in small groups" happens. Even when we stretch the
"small group" to include mass media productions or museum exhibits,
we still expect to deal with "artistic communication" in some way;
specifically, in what we can treat as a "text." We record a bluesman
singing, a storyteller talking, children riddling; we photograph quilts and
carvings, houses and barns; we videotape people dancing, teenagers playing the
dozens, graffiti artists painting, healers healing, worshipers worshiping.
Always we expect to provide ourselves with a text, an artifact, a performance
we can then study. One of the best examples of this research practice can be
seen in Richard Bauman's Story, Performance, and Event: Contextual Studies of
Oral Narrative (1986), a book in which the author looks at a few oral stories
and discusses at great length how the context affects the text-how everything
in the storyteller's cultural surrounds conspire to give us those very
particular texts.
While we could
work back from each book and try to account for its final form and content by
citing the cultural and personal elements that influenced each author's
literary "performance." In doing this, we would be invoking two
assumptions currently a part of most folklore research: that the artifact we
study is composed in performance and that the performer uses the cultural frame
of reference shared with his or her audience to create a performance that is
meaningful. There is no reason to quibble with these assumptions; they work
very well for any "artistic" text actually any artifact at all that
can be captured in some form that allows us to examine it. The problem here is
that these assumptions derive from a verbal model. Performance theory grew out
of studies of oral epic and the ethnography of speaking. It helps tremendously
with the analysis of texts. Even the performance of a traditional ballad like
"Barbara Allen," in which the singer tries to sing the song just as
she learned it, benefits from attention to what happens as the performer brings
to bear all of her cultural frame of reference as she sings.
An author like Wayne
Dyer, writing his tenth best-selling self-help book, could fruitfully be
studied using the methods associated withperformance
theory. Dyer even helpfully cites other writers whose self-help books he has
read. Careful analysis would reveal how the cultural context and the genre of
self-help books have been incorporated, consciously or not, into the writing of
his latest book. But when we look at how Dyer's book is used by an
approximation of the stated assumption of this study-that the reader hopes to
build a personal philosophy. The wildcard is the reader's own self and life
history. In every case, the reader must supply concrete examples to flesh out
the principles discussed by reflecting upon his or her own life.
Some insights can be
gained from looking at research in adult education, in particular the work of
French scholar Pierre Dominice. Along with American
educators interested in what Jack Mezirow calls"transformative
learning," Dominice examines the role that
reflection on an individual's life history plays in solidifying .learning. In Dominice's book Learning from Our Lives: Using Educational
Biographies with Adults (2000), we can see how the practice of creating
"educational biographies" encourages adult learners to examine the
effects of various educational experiences on their understanding oflife. In other words, there is an increasing awareness
among adult educators that the process of reflection-of building a personal
system of understanding, a personal philosophy-is essential to the overall
process of adult education. And Dominice's book
discusses at length the advantages in requiring adult learners to tie together
their own life stories and their sense of themselves as people who have learned
from the lives they live.
We can see, then,
that without such required and formalized reflection, the more typical folklore
process at play when a reader reads a self-help book leaves us with an un
articulated "text." The object or thing that grows out of an
individual's reading and thinking remains an unexpressed amalgam of inchoate
ideas, a personal but tacit belief system. Nevertheless, this
"product"-this unarticulated educational biography-functions well for
the reader. And within it are some components that we can more easily identify
and study-the traditional elements that make up the cultural frame of
reference.
The notion of a
"cultural frame of reference" derives from two separate concepts in
the field of folklore research. When the two concepts are brought together, we
have a particularly rich analytic tool. The first concept is tied to the common
phrase "frame of reference." Usually, in day-to-day speech, this
phrase is used to identify a set of accepted values or a body of shared
information that allows a person to interpret the meaning or relative
importance of a given item. Thus, in his book Frame Analysis, Erving Goffman
sets out "to isolate some of the basic frameworks of understanding
available in our society for making sense out of events" (1974,10). Having
a frame of reference allows us to understand; without one, we have only our
instincts and raw senses to guide us. The source of a frame of reference is
thus either subjective experience or interaction with other people, a reference
group.
The concept of a folk
or culture group is the second part of the larger concept of a cultural frame
of reference. Dan Ben-Amos, in offering a definition of folklore in context,
wrote, "For the folkloric act to happen, two social conditions are
necessary: both the performer and the audience have to be in the same situation
and be part of the reference group" (1972,12). To be part of the
same reference group may mean something so limited as to be members of the same
nuclear family, or it may mean simply to be members of the same country.
Ultimately, what decides whether one person is part of the same reference group
as another person is whether they share the "stuff" that would be
referred to-in effect, whether they share traditions. E. D. Hirsch Jr., in his
book Cultural Literacy (1987), capitalizes on this notion of a shared cultural
frame, emphasizing the advantages to students in being a part of the
"educated" group whose cultural references are most highly valued and
most often alluded to in our society.
Sometimes the
traditions that are referred to are not easily identified; often they might
more correctly be called "patterns" or "worldview" or
"folk ideas," and often, especially in those instances, the
"reference" is not a conscious one but rather a functional but
unconscious use. Still, some specific kinds of folklore-a group's corpus of
sayings, stories, practices, and beliefs do constitute much of the cultural
frame of reference. I would offer the following as a definition for the
concept: A cultural frame of reference is a mental framework that holds the
cumulative repertoire of traditions and cultural patterns of behavior and
thought shared by members of a group. Tied to this definition are three
assumptions: There must be something to refer to: the traditions. The frame of
reference is group-based (cultural) rather than idiosyncratic. 3.- Though the
frame is culture-based, not everyone will share every element that makes up the
frame with everyone else who is a part of the group; furthermore, because every
person has a separate life history, each individual's constellation of groups
to which he or she belongs is unique.
The cultural frame of
reference is what allows a listener to make sense of communications from other
people, and often it is what attracts people, by its very familiarity, to the
message conveyed or convinces them of its truth.
The cultural frame of
reference is used at both ends of a communication by the encoder and the
decoder. But, again, the resources used in this way are not simply verbal ones
but all traditions. The field of folklore study is essentially a
two-hundred-year-old effort to identify the traditions that make up the world's
discrete and cumulative cultural frames of reference. It is important to view
this accumulation of cultural knowledge as only one portion of the whole that
contributes to the individual's construction of a personal philosophy. The
individual's own life and experience (including biological, psychological, and
environmental factors) and the goal of self-education itself influence the
process. The cultural frame of reference is a significant part" it is the
part that both feeds and draws upon socially constructed reality. In this study
of popular nonfiction, it is the cultural frame of reference that is most
influential. It is the cultural frame that adds a social dimension to the
solitary act of reading a self-help book.
Self-help books are
read primarily by adults but only rarely as part of the regular college and
university curriculum. Such books certainly could be a part of the college
curriculum. Edward LeRoy Long Jr., in Higher Education as a Moral Enterprise,
suggests that there are three functions or responsibilities that must be
addressed by any college or university: (1) "maturation and enrichment of
selfhood"; (2) "discovery/construction, extension, and dissemination
of knowledge and culture"; and (3) responsibility for "the well-being
of society" (1992,6). Most often, the second function is allowed to
dominate, with the first and third seen as less significant aspects of college
life. While some colleges are making efforts to balance these three functions,
most have not incorporated all three into the curriculum. The enrichment of the
"self" in particular is left to the individual as an extracurricular
choice.
Still, the current
decade promises to be a period of great change among institutions of higher
learning. Curriculum is being reexamined. Perhaps more striking than curriculum
revision is the growing attention to vocational training, service learning,
human and organizational management, continuing education,
"returning" students, distance education, and on-line courses; these
and other emerging features of the contemporary expanding university are
bringing a new challenge to the enterprise of higher education. One aspect of
this challenge is a renewed and more urgent interest in practical rather than
theoretical questions about how learning happens, no matter what the subject.
Does learning happen best in well-organized group presentations? Can learning
happen in solitary programs or one-on-one interactions via the Internet? Should
learning be participatory, or are lectures effective? Are adult learners more
likely to set their own goals for learning the institution to tell them what is
most important?
As institutions of
higher education are grappling with these issues, the unofficial self-help
"movement" has found ways of addressing them as well, especially as
these issues affect learning about the self and the learner's own behavior. A
major consideration in either case is whether the individual learner will work
with others in a group or instead independently, with only authoritative
resources and his or her own learning goal as a guide. Looking at my own
involvement with the learning process as an example, we can say that for all
but the first five years of my life, I have been a student or a teacher; my own
experience with the process of learning clearly has involved the context of a
group-the typical classroom setting. I appreciate and endorse the advantages of
learning in a group setting; there is nothing in a solitary learning situation
to match the effects of a stimulating discussion.
Nevertheless,
circumstances cannot always offer that ideal. Joseph Kett's
1994 study chronicles the emergence of adult education and attests to the
efforts people have made to find group contexts for learning, even in
nonacademic settings. In America, from the colonial period on, there has been a
strong interest in clubs, library societies, books, and institutions that
support self-improvement among adults not enrolled in regular schooling-in
other words, in self-education. Kett's survey takes
account of the group venues historically available for intellectual, social,
and spiritual improvement of the self. Today, churches, synagogues, health
clubs, library discussion groups, noncredit college workshops, even bookstore
coffee shops continue this tradition. In addition, there are a growing number
of institutions, such as the California Institute of Integral Studies or the
Whidbey Institute in Clinton, Washington, dedicated to the process of
"transformative learning," as Jack Mezirow named this
self-developmental adult learning practice some years ago (1978).
Kett
mentions as well the positive response people in the earlier decades of the
twentieth century had to the few self-help books just beginning to appear on
publishing lists-books such as Dale Carnegie's Art of Public Speaking (1915)
and How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936). Such books attested to an
increasingly popular independent self-help reading practice that grew up
alongside the group-oriented venues for self-education. By the 1960s, there
began a surge in publishing such books of popular nonfiction that continues
unabated into the present. Readers are now offered a wide selection of books that
can be discussed in group settings or, more often, read in private and used by
the individual as part of a self-directed learning program. As noted earlier,
by 1994, the abundance of books had already created a need for The
Authoritative Guide to Self-Help Books, which culled through more than one
thousand self-help books available in order to help people decide which would
be most worth reading.
K. Patricia Cross, in
her classic study Adults as Learners, devoted several pages to a discussion of
the incidence of "self-directed learning," reviewing in particular
the work of Allen Tough, who, in the early 1970S, had introduced the concept of
a "learning project." Tough's definition of a learning project brings
together a series of related episodes: "In each episode more than half of
a person's total motivation is to gain and retain certain fairly clear
knowledge and skill, or to produce some other lasting change in himself"
(qtd. in Cross, 1981, 63). Other researchers have considered more generally the
way learning projects function within the sphere of adult education. Malcolm
Knowles identifies the "problem-centered orientation" as most
characteristic of adult learning in general. It is in the articulation of the
problem itself that most adult learners seek assistance through outside
sources-paid experts, friends, and books. According to research in the late
1970S, books were the third most common resource consulted in individual
learning projects. I would suspect that they are an even more common resource
today, along with a growing dependence on the Internet.
A typical learning project is self-initiated,
self-planned, and self-directed.
However, the
individual learner, as Knowles suggested, often has trouble articulating the
problem he or she feels compelled to address. Self-help books serve this need
well. As I suggested earlier, every author states a lack that needs
liquidating, a problem that needs solving, and the problem is stated in terms
that are personally relevant to the individual reader. In choosing and reading
a book, readers recognize the theme or problem addressed in the book as their
own, or at least as one related to the question at the heart of the often
unorganized but yet compelling learning project guiding the choice of reading
matter. Self-help books are not bought on whim but rather on purpose. And that
purpose is to serve the goal of the reader's learning project, even if that
learning project has not yet been clearly outlined, even if it is implicit and
emergent rather than explicit and fixed.
How does reading yet
another book on career choices or how to break an addiction or how to manage
after a divorce represent an attempt to build a personal philosophy? The
bricoleur will seek out and use what is at hand. These are the books that are
available, and their usefulness can be assumed to some degree by their
popularity. The implication would be that people who are undertaking their own
learning projects are buying and reading the self-help books that stay in
print, and especially the books of authors who more than once make the
best-seller list. Still, we must assume that something other than simply
availability determines which books are found most useful. The book needs to
fit into each reader's individual learning project.
A learning project
that involves self- help books may take on different guises at various times.
Someone working on a learning project may choose to participate in workshops or
discussion groups in which a particular book is used. For example, Linda J.
Vogel stresses the importance of the group in adult religious education:
"Teaching and learning in communities of faith must incorporate a
dialogue-where all have an opportunity both to listen and to be heard. Teaching
begins with what people already know and offers tools for working toward a
consensus where all can benefit. ... [This process] compels us to listen to
others, to build community, to clarify problems, and then to work toward a more
just world" (1991, xii). Often such involvement in community is as important
as the subject matter itself. Some people learn much more easily through
dialogue and discussion and the stimulation of a workshop. But, in general,
Americans seek a balance between community involvement and individualism, as
Robert Bellah and his colleagues suggest in Habits of
the Heart. Clearly, for many readers, reading a book in solitude and pondering
its message in private can be equally satisfying.
A number of writers
of self-help books have assumed this second alternative and have offered throughout
their books opportunities for reflection, questions or assignments that readers
mayor may not use in their own learning projects. Sam
Keen and Anne Valley-Fox' s early success with the 1973 version of Your Mythic
Journey (1989) speaks to the need many people (authors and readers) feel for
having a "text" or artifact that captures the reader's learning in
some fixed form. Drawing upon their work with Joseph Campbell, Keen and Valley-
Fox introduce~the notion of a "personal
mythology" and encouraged readers to answer questions and build a story
(or several stories) that' would represent the reader's own""
expressive myth. Some books leave open spaces on the page for readers to write
their own thoughts. Some encourage readers to keep a daily journal. Some
suggest ways that readers might express their thoughts through various creative
activities-art, dance, poetry, or music. Some direct people toward social
service. In every such case, one objective is to have some "thing" to
show for the learning that has taken place.
As we discussed
earlier, often the bricoleur's task is to build a formless system of belief, a
personal philosophy that cannot be (or at least is not) expressed in a concise
and fixed text. In this case, the learning project has a clear goal, but that
goal does not entail the creation of a text, artifact, or performance. Our
query becomes that of the tree falling in the forest-is there a philosophy if
it is never expressed, never written down or given voice, even in a rudimentary
way? As a teacher, I will argue that better learning is achieved when learners
articulate what they have learned. So I will side with those writers who offer
opportunities for readers to record their own thoughts in some way. On the
other hand, we must assume that reading alone also has its effect. Self-help
books are useful in learning projects that seek to build for the reader a
personal philosophy, even if that philosophy remains in the tacit dimension.
Furthermore, the real "application" of a tacit belief system or
personal philosophy occurs in the personal behavior of the individual, in real
life, rather than in the creation of a written or performed text. Life lived
becomes the true application, the text.
At the heart of all
self-help books one could also say, is a professed disenchantment-profound or
mild-with conventional ways of thinking, with the worldview that is a part of
American culture. The authors of self-help books universally adopt the premise
that what they have to offer is a new way of thinking that will to the benefit
of the reader and ultimately the world-replace the old. Their task is a
rhetorical one; they must persuade their readers to adopt the new and cast off
the old. As have teachers and prophets from earlier times, they claim to bring
a new philosophy to the common people, and they want to present it in a way
that people will find convincing. This means that some aspects of the
presentation will have to be already familiar to the audience. Like Jesus in
the New Testament, many writers have used the everyday genres of story and
aphorism to teach and persuade. But they have also simply addressed directly
the faulty "ways of thinking" they deem in need of revision. They
have identified and challenged the "folk ideas" that comprise our
worldview.
In the first few
paragraphs of his article "Folk Ideas as Units of World view, " Alan Dundes explains the distinction folklorists make between
the category "myth" and other larger, more amorphous and inclusive
notions often called "myth" by people outside the field of folklore
studies. He admits that the practice of using the term "myth" to
refer only to sacred oral narratives is confined to folklorists and
anthropologists, and he raises the question of what might be done about the
looser view of myth that includes ideas, beliefs, faulty reasoning, themes, and
other general elements of worldview. He proposes that the term "folk
ideas" be used for seme aspects of this loose
category and offers the following definition: "By 'folk ideas,' I mean
traditional notions that a group of people have about the nature of man, of the
world, and of man's life in the world. Folk ideas would not constitute a genre
of folklore but rather would be expressed in a great variety of genres"
(1972,95). Clearly, as his title indicates, Dundes is
searching for a unit of analysis but is also implying that these "folk
ideas" are recognizable, autonomous entities, each with a history of its
own .•.. They mayor may not depend on narratives, on
myths, for their most potent means of expression. And any given folk idea may
be summarized in a single word (for example, "individualism") or a
sentence ("Science can solve any problem") or phrase ("the
principle of unlimited good").
Not all ideas
routinely called "myth" by media writers would be "folk
ideas," and not all folk ideas would find their way into the stories
folklorists call myths. However, collectively, the folk ideas that are taken up
and given expression through popular self-help books may well function as does
myth-to allow for the expression and evolution of a significant set of beliefs.
In 1926, noted anthropologist Bronislaw Malinowski wrote the following
observations on myth in his Myth in Primitive Psychology: Myth fulfills in
primitive culture an indispensable function: it expresses, enhances, and
codifies belief; it safeguards and enforces morality; it vouches for the
efficiency of ritual and contains practical rules for the guidance of man. Myth
is thus a vital ingredient of human civilization; it is not an idle tale, but a
hard-worked active force; it is not an intellectual explanation or an artistic
imagery, but a pragmatic charter of primitive faith and moral wisdom. ([ 1926]
1954,101)
The role of myth as
pragmatic charter of faith and wisdom is easily seen in the penchant of
self-help book writers for examining folk ideas.
Yet as Dundes warned us, folk ideas are not easily
identified. They do not have a single form, style, or genre. A folk idea must
be recognized purely on the basis of content. And that person doing the "recognizing"
cannot simply surmise that a given notion is a folk idea; the classifier must
also be able to demonstrate that the idea is traditional, that it has a
"history" of transmission through time and space. The process is
similar to that of identifying "cultural patterns" or, more recently,
"memes" in culture and perhaps even themes in works of literature or
music. In fact, the well-worn term "theme" often used in literary
studies is probably most appropriate to our study of self-help books since they
are a genre of literature. But the process of transmission more closely follows
that of folk motifs in oral literature.
Many of the same concerns
that folklorists have brought to their study of folktales have reemerged in the
"new science of memes." Aaron Lynch, in his book Thought Contagion,
offers the following observations: Like a software virus in a computer network
or a physical virus in a city, thought contagions proliferate. by effectively
"programming" for their own retransmission. Beliefs affect
retransmission in so many ways that they set off a colorful, unplanned growth
race among diverse "epidemics" of ideas. Actively contagious ideas
are now called memes ... by students of the newly emerging science of memetics.
(1996,2)
One thing that is
clear in Lynch's choice of words (and in the language of other writers on the
topic as well) is the sense of human inadequacy in the face of this challenge
by a hostile, invading force. Memes, according to the theory, take on a life of
their own and simply "use" people as a means of transmission.
It is instructive, I
think, to remember the words that Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi used in writing of the
historical path of memes: "Once a meme is well established, it tends to
generate inertia in the mind, and forces us to pursue its logical consequences
to the bitter end" (1993,124). It may seem surprising that researchers
would adopt so easily such a pessimistic perspective, viewing people as rather
spineless creatures willing and eager to do the bidding of powerful ideas.
Certainly we do have the evidence of the Holocaust in World War II and even
more recent genocides to point to. Still, the fear that that is the direction
all humans will go when taken on by a hostile meme is itself a belief. And
interestingly, it is the rhetoric-based community of selfhelp
book authors rather than theoretical scholars that has relentlessly challenged
that belief.
One of the clearest
discussions of the "automigration" problem
in folktale study was offered by Linda Degh and
Andrew Vazsonyi in their 1975 article, "The
Hypothesis of Multi -Conduit Transmission in Folklore." As Degh and Vazsonyi point out, the
question of the transmission of intangible ideas-in this case, the plots of
folktales-was already an issue when the Grimm Brothers published their famous
collection of Kinder- und Hausmaerchen in 1812.
But it was not until
early in the next century that significant theoretical discussion focused on
the process and the "thing" -in this case, the folktale
"type" or plot-that was being spread, supposedly through some super
organic mechanism that simply used humans as vehicles of transmission. Thus it was
postulated that a fairy tale plot such as "Cinderella" could move
about as "the wave rings on water" or as an independent steady
stream. Challenges to this theory took the form of reminders that real
individuals are the tellers and real people are the audiences for stories and
that proper study of the process requires observation of the natural context in
which stories are told. Degh and Vazsonyi
were still cautious about the conclusions one could make, but tRey argued that "we can safely say that
investigations neither justify the contention that oral transmission inundates
like a stream covering everything, nor support the thesis that the
once-established 'perfect' form of tradition is perpetuated merely by multiple
and manifold reinforcement"
(1975,211).
In effect, folklorists
battled the too-ready acceptance of the metaphor of the meme a long time ago. I
point this out again only to emphasize how very seductive that metaphor is; it
tempts us to see only that an idea marches relentlessly to "its bitter
end." We lose sight of our own role as individuals who choose what we will
do with an idea. Nevertheless, recognizing the meme or the theme or the folk
idea as a real and powerful idea is important, is essential, if we are to
choose wisely. If we see clearly what would likely happen if we continue to
follow a path that leads toward a "bitter end," perhaps we can
individually and collectively choose not to follow that path, even though it
might offer us a personal or political advantage right now. That is the message
of self-help book writers. And because awareness of the possible bitter end is
so important, we must, they would argue, be very careful in identifying what
the problem is before we consider how to solve it.
We have seen that
there is a process that allows folk ideas to emerge and evolve and become a
part of the worldview of a culture. Researchers have identified various
cultural patterns that fall easily into the category of folk ideas. Richard M.
Dorson names four "impulses" that characterize each of four periods
in American history (America in Legend [1973]); Edward C. Stewart and Milton J.
Bennett discuss a number of behavior patterns characteristic of Americans, such
as pragmatism, competition, an orientation to action, informality, materialism,
and individualism (American Cultural Patterns: A Cross-Cultural Perspective
[1991]); and Robert Bellah and his colleagues have
addressed at length the conflict between individualism and commitment to
community (Habits of the Heart). These and other works speak directly to the
assumption that there are accepted beliefs or ideas that are SD pervasive in
American culture as to be characteristic of the culture as a whole.
Still, it is clear
that while one can identify customary ways of thinking, individuals are
bombarded with many conflicting ideas. America is not a homogeneous culture,
even if there is a majority whose ideas on what is right and good seem to
dominate. People are acquainted with many points of view. As Kenneth J. Gergen writes: "Beliefs in the true and the good
depend on a reliable and homogeneous group of supporters, who define what is
reliably 'there,' plain and simple. With social saturation, the coherent
circles of accord are demolished, and all beliefs thrown into question by one's
exposure to multiple points of view" (1991, xi). In contemporary American
culture, there is a tendency for ideas to exist in a constant state of
opposition or conflict, even when one side of the conflict seems to be stronger
than the other.
This incidence of
opposition between folk ideas is not unique to American culture, however, or
even to the modern period. Perhaps no other writer has had a more profound
impact on contemporary thinking about the construction of cultural ideas than
Claude Levi -Strauss, and he was adamant about the universality of mythological
thinking. In "The Structural Study of Myth," he says, "Some
claim that human societies merely express, through their mythology, fundamental
feelings common to the whole of mankind, such as love, hate,revenge"
(1972,170). He contends that it is not so simple as that; he goes on to say
that "the kind of logic which is used by mythical thought is as rigorous
as that of modern science" (194). And that logic always involves the
mediation of opposites. In other words, mythical thinking requires that folk
ideas be both traditional and opposed, usually in a fairly complicated and
richly creative way.
Where does this take
us in our discussion of self-help books? First, we can agree to think of
self-help books collectively as a cumulative expression of mythical thinking in
contemporary American culture, much as Levi-Strauss was willing to include
Freud's use of the Oedipus story as part of the cumulative cultural material
comprising the Oedipus myth. Though the books are written rather than passed
along orally, the work of individuals rather than tribal property, and, for the
most part, expository rather than narrative, we can still acknowledge their
functioning as vehicles for mythical thinking. And, we can assume that there
will be identifiable units-folk ideas-that we can, with effort, name and
corroborate as existing in American culture and recognize when we encounter
them in self-help books. Finally, we can anticipate at every turn a mediation
of opposites, or, in fact, an ambiguity in the culture about which folk idea is
right and good-a disagreement about how we are to feel about the ideas our
culture has provided.
This cultural ambiguity is precisely what engages
self-help book writers.
They are eager to offer their interpretations, and those interpretations will
always require a consideration of their opposites, of the "old" point
of view. At a more popular level, they are doing what Alan Dundesdetermined
to do in his book Interpreting Folklore: to discover patterns of culture and
thus "provide the means of raising levels of consciousness" (1980,
x). And, the self-help book writers usually go beyond this exercise in
consciousness-raising and suggest expansions and applications that make this
awareness of folk ideas more directly relevant to the lives of their readers.
They offer New Age answers to the cultural ambiguity that accompanies these
highlighted folk ideas.
It should be clare that the topics of self-help literature are not
necessarily the same thing as the folk ideas addressed by self-help writers.
For example, in Santrock, Minnett, and Campbell's
Authoritative Guide to Self-Help Books, only a few of the thirty-two topics
listed in the table of contents represent actual belief-based practices or
attitudes that the authors hope to challenge with opposing ideational
rhetoric-topics such as anger, anxiety, codependency, or depression. A few
topics do represent the New Age themes the selfhelp
books are particularly noted for addressing-understanding death and dying,
finding love and intimacy, raising self-esteem, and improving motivation. But
in general, the folk ideas central to the didactic purpose of self-help books
are to be found embedded in the texts themselves, much as Dundes
proclaimed folk ideas to be scattered and often camouflaged within the various
genres of folklore.
More telling are the
titles of many of the self-help books themselves (Positive Solitude [Andre,
1991]; Stop Being Mean to Yourself[Beattie, 1997]; Minding the Body, Mending
the Mind [Borysenko]; Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
[Jeffers]) or their subtitles (How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth
[Blanton, 1994]; When Being in Control Gets Out of Control [Mallinger
and DeWyze, 1992]; Getting Out of Your Own Way
[Sills, 1993]; Creating Trust, Luck, and Joy [Sinetar]).
Ultimately, as with the paradigmatic structures Levi- Strauss identified in
myths, the themes developed and challenged by self-help books are in the eye of
the beholder. The few writers or editors who have directly addressed the self-help
book phenomenon as a topic of research have helped identify several themes.
Gary Greenberg, in
The Self on the Shelf, for example, focuses exclusively on the theme of
codependency-in this case, an "old" belief or behavior pattern that
the many relevant self-help books hope to replace with a more effective
philosophy. Greenberg is quick to point out the problems in the "new"
ideas offered by the self-help writers; he acknowledges the continuing
ambiguity of the culture. Most self-help book writers themselves are less
inclined to recognize the need for mediation between the old and the new. A
more recent study by Elizabeth Lesser, The New American Spirituality: A
Seeker's Guide (1999), is clearly supportive of the folk ideas promoted by the
spiritual self-help books she reviews for her readers. She incorporates the th&es she identifies into her own story of spiritual
renewal, much more in the way that Levi-Strauss would envision a myth emerging
in an individual’s telling. The sense of mediation of opposites is left, in
this case, up to the reader.
Perhaps more helpful
to our purpose here-identifying some of the primary folk ideas or themes at the
heart of the self-help movement-is a book produced by Ronald S. Miller and the
editors of New Age Journal. The book, As Above, So Below (1992), is published
by one of the noted New Age publishers, Jeremy P. Tarcher
of Los Angeles, and it includes as subtitles for each of its chapters phrases
that, to my mind, identify the folk ideas Miller and the editors recognize as
central to the New Age movement (and thus certainly a significant part of
the self-help tradition). Often immediately apparent in the combination of
chapter title and subtitle is that declaration of opposites so essential in
mythical thinking. For example, chapter 1 is titled "The Emerging
Spirituality," and its subtitle is "Falling in Love with Our
World." Implied in the word "emerging" in the title is the
suggestion that previously-before the new spirituality began to emerge-people
were not "in love with our world." Or again, in chapter 12, the title
is "Awakening Creativity," and the subtitle is "Liberating the
Inner Artist." That creativity or artistry needs to be awakened or
liberated again suggests that the old folk idea restrained such expression.
In writing So
Self-Help Classics, Tom Butler-Bowdon groups books into six general themes: The
Power of Thought (change your thoughts, change your life), Following Your Dream
(achievement and goal-setting), Secrets of Happiness (doing what you love,
doing what works), The Bigger Picture (keeping it in perspective), Soul and
Mystery (appreciating your depth), and Making a Difference (transforming
yourself, transforming the world). The subtitles, again, reveal the points of
challenge and ambiguity. If to be happy, one must start "doing what you
love," then clearly an older and contrasting belief is that to be happy,
one must be dutiful or moral or obedient. While the writers are not ambiguous about
which beliefs are right, the culture is. The themes that are central to
self-help literature reflect the ambiguity of conflicting beliefs. "
We however can also
view the emergence of New Age themes in selfhelp
books as an accommodation of and response to folk ideas that have long been a
part of American worldview but have been increasingly brought into question and
held in a state of ambiguity. Selfhelp books make
that ambiguity-that conflict of beliefs-apparent.
The writers of
self-help books themselves are more often eager to challenge the old and
promote the new. It is the reader's responsibility to reconcile the differing
beliefs in his or her own evolving philosophy. Robert Wuthnow,
in After Heaven: Spirituality in America since the 19505 (1998), suggests that
in recent decades, people have adopted a "spirituality of
seeking"-one that emphasizes negotiation rather than the security of a
settled and shared belief system and worldview. Even with regard to more
secular themes, people choose to seek out a variety of perspectives and
reconcile the old and the new beliefs in their everyday behaviors. Writers of
self-help books feed this practice of negotiation by presenting arguments that
invoke the dominant folk ideas, only to challenge them and offer their opposites.
In keeping with their
role as problem-namers and problem-solvers, selfhelp book writers address a number of concerns
individuals are likely to themselves identify as their own problem. Readers
often pick up a self-help book specifically because it is about their
self-identified problem with insecurity, timidity, guilt, worry, shyness,
underachievement, rigidity, lack of creativity, lack of intimacy, a sense of
failure, fear of death, depression, or simple lack of faith in much of
anything. Others look for even more specific problem areas: inadequacy in
parenting, overeating, poor health, poor performance on the job, and especially
poor performance or lack of satisfaction with regard to sexuality and personal
interactions. Simply listing these concerns does not really bring these issues
into the arena of mythical thought.
We can do this more
effectively by returning to the framework of folk ideas presented in
opposition-the framework of cultural ambiguity.
While recognizing the many specific concerns viewed as problems by both writers
and readers of self-help books, I am going to suggest here that there are eight
"mythic" themes, themes that are in conflict in American culture and
to which self-help writers have offered and promoted the "new"
perspective along with challenging the old. In effect, these are eight themes
that are intended to evoke a mythical, or mediating, response from the reader,
a response of informed choice, an enlightened and personally negotiated
response. And I would argue that, despite the energetic efforts of self-help
book writers, each of these themes will remain ambiguous in our culture though
for those of their readers who are persuaded by their rhetoric and examples,
personal philosophies may well change to accept the new and challenging side of
the folk idea.
The eight themes can
be presented as single-word concepts: (1) fear; (2) control; (3) competition;
(4) judgment; (5) dishonesty; (6) individualism; (7) violence; (8) impatience.
It may seem that culture gives us a clear attitude to bring to each of these.
In American culture, competition and individualism are good; dishonesty and
violence are bad. Generally, we would argue, control and judgment are good;
fear and impatience are bad. However, in fact, there is an ambiguity tied to
each of these. Fear is bad if it produces cowardice but good if it produces
obedience to God or a law of nature. Control is good if it leads to effective
work but bad if it stifles innovation. Competition is essential in a capitalist
system, but it just might not be so good if it leads to suicide or war. Our
system of justice requires that all citizens be prepared to judge their peers;
on the other hand, the Bible teaches us to "judge not, that ye be not
judged." Everyone knows that dishonesty is bad-even a very young George
Washington could not tell a lie-but then there are times when the truth must
not be spoken (Are you hiding Jewish war-victims in your attic?). Individualism
is the backbone of American culture, yet Robert Bellah
and his colleagues in Habits of the Heart point to its many negative effects,
including the loss of a sense of community. Violence is awful, of course, but
we resort to it time and again, thus reinforcing its real value. And impatience
is if nothing else bad practice- "All things come to those who wait"
-and yet our culture is strongly geared toward action, speed, and being first
in line.
Most of the concerns
that self-help writers address can be grouped under one of these eight themes.
In fact, a number of writers suggest that all concerns or problems are a result
of the first theme-fear, that eliminating fear or at least learning to respond
more appropriately to it is the one answer to all questions posed by self-help
books. Ivan Hoffman writes, "Happiness, loving, caring, feeling about a
situation in a positive manner, looking at the world without fear are all about
the same thing" (1993, 69). Susan Jeffers, in her book Feel the Fear and
Do It Anyway, says, "The fear will never go away as long as I continue to
grow." But she adds, "Pushing through the fear is less frightening
than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of he'fplessness" (1987,30). I~ other words, pushing
through the fear (eliminating it) is what is needed in the end.
James Kitchens brings
a number of the themes together in one summary comment on this common process
of coming under the spell of a fear-inspired set of folk ideas: As we grow
older, we lose our souls. We learn about failure and disapproval and rejection,
and we begin to fear. We risk less, and our natural creativity is swallowed up
in our worry about inadequacy. We become careful and controlling as we compare
ourselves to others, evaluate and grade ourselves, and compete in order to
avoid being perceived as a failure. Caution and suspicion replace trust and
openness. We live in order to collect things and achievements, which become
badges we wear. We hope to prove to ourselves and to anyone else who might be
looking that we are not losers. We forfeit ourselves, and life becomes hard.
(1994,20)
This dismal litany
evokes the dominant folk ideas very clearly, if completely negatively. No
quarter is granted to the idea that sometimes fear is good, that sometimes
competition produces desired results, that the meme of judicious control leads
to progress. All that this writer sees is the "bitter end" to which
such a fear-based belief system leads.
We must remember that
it is the self-help writers' task to identify the problematic "old"
beliefs and promote the opposite and "better" new beliefs they would
hope their readers will come to espouse. Kitchens, in his review above of the
fear and control, competition and judgment that make life hard, offers
essentially one folk idea in contrast and as a solution. He calls his solution "joy";
he subtitles his book Rediscovering the Joy and Meaning in Your Life. But he
goes on to say that "joy is a way of proceeding" (1994,39), and his
description of that process is in fact the "folk idea" he hopes to
promote: the process of eliminating fear, refraining from judgment, and
loosening control brings joy, and we realize joy only by learning to
trust-trust ourselves, trust the universe, trust God-and accept life.
Most of the writers
who address the problem of fear in any of its guises timidity, insecurity, fear
of death, fear of failure, a sense of inadequacy, doubt and disbelief-offer as
a contrast and solution the idea of learning to trust the universe and accept
life as it is. The folk idea asserts that life can be trusted-not necessarily
that things will go as one might wish or that there will be no suffering, but
rather that there is nothing to fear. In the larger perspective, life will
provide what is needed, and what is given can be accepted as right and good.
A perhaps not
-'so-subtle corollary here is the idea of the soul, the idea that, what is of
ultimate concern is not the fate of the body but rather the fate of what we
identify as a "self." Some writers do not identify this
"self" as an eternal soul but rather as a psychological self-referential
entity; however, a large number of writers do in fact write of the soul as a
preexisting, death-surviving reality. Interestingly, in either case, the
assertion is made that one must learn to trust that the "self" is
safe, that the self cannot be harmed by life. Like Alexander Pope in the
eighteenth century, self-help book writers assure us that "whatever is, is
right." On the other hand, a fairly large number of "spiritual"
writers (as distinguished from popular psychology writers) do also address the
question of God or life after death, or both. But, again, the folk idea
involved is less one of describing or even recognizing "God" and more
a matter of general faith in the proposition that the universe is not to be
feared but rather accepted.
This folk idea of
trust is also offered, perhaps more indirectly, by writers addressing the issue
of too much control or the perceived need to evaluate and judge. For example,
in their book Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control, Allan E. Mallinger and Jeannette DeWyze
draw a picture of the obsessive individual as someone who maintains a
"myth of control": They come to believe that, through control of
themselves and their personal universe, they can protect themselves against the
dangers in life, both real and imagined. If they could articulate the myth that
motivates their behavior, they might say: "If I try hard enough, I can
stay in control of myself, of others, and of all the impersonal dangers oflife (injury, illness, death, etc.). In this way I can be
certain of safe passage." (1992,15)
And while the authors
offer some very specific suggestions of how to overcome the compulsive behavior
associated with this kind of thinking, in general their message is tied to the
larger idea of learning that control is ultimately not in our hands, that we
must trust life rather than try to control it.
Similarly, the
"issues" of judgment, prejudice, even dishonesty itself are seen as
responses to the problem of fear, or the lack of trust. Often, the selfhelp book writers remind us, we prejudge people because
we fear that if we don't, they will take advantage of us in some way. We are
convinced that we need to be in control; we do not trust that we are safe in
situations in which we must deal with people who are different from us.
Even in our most
intimate relationships, deception is often the choice we make. As Harriet Goldhor Lerner says, "The human capacity to hide the
real and display the false is truly extraordinary, allowing us to regulate
relationships through highly complex choices about how we present ourselves to
others" (1993,118).
Lerner goes on to
echo the observation of many self-help writers: "Trust evolves only from a
true knowledge of our partner and ourselves and a mutual commitment to
increasing levels of sharing and self-disclosure" (170). In other words,
what we call trust in an intimate relationship develops only when the fear of
self-disclosure is abandoned, when we no longer fear being honest rather than
cagey. For many of the self-help writers, the contrast between fear and trust,
between dishonesty and trust, soon pulls into its domain a related worry over
what happens when trust is absent-competition, self-centeredness, and
isolation, and even violence. As I mentioned earlier, these ideas are often
celebrated or at least consciously tolerated in American culture. "It's
lonely at the top" is often seen as the price of competition and
individualism, but Americans are loath to give up any hard-won victories on
behalf of the rights of the individual.
The answering folk
idea that many self-help writers offer in response to these very ambiguous
cultural icons of competition, individualism, and violence is an assertion that
the universe and all in it are one. In particular, many writers argue that
there is a unity among all people, among all living beings, and that awareness
of that unity will restrain the individual from the imbalances of aggressive
competition, arrogance and self-centeredness, and violence. There are, however,
surprisingly few practical suggestions offered for how to implement this folk
idea in daily life. Those who seem most easily able to make such suggestions
are writers who adopt from the very start an Eastern rather than Western
stance. Ram Dass (previously Richard Alpert), noted
counterculture figure of the 1960s, for example, took from his long immersion
in teachings of India a new sense of how to respond to the "separateness"
so characteristic of America. In Compassion in Action, reporting on his work
with AIDS victims, he speaks very directly to the problem of how fear compels
us to remain separate and also how we can overcome it: When people are dying
they often feel alone in their pain and fear. Those around them are not going
through what they are, so how could they understand? It takes a lover who is
not afraid of the pain to be present and wipe away the loneliness. For over
twenty-five years I have been often in the company of dying people. In the
course of all those moments I have come to see just how in love I can stay with
other beings in the face of their suffering. If I am afraid of pain, then in a
subtle and sometimes not -so-subtle way I distance my heart from the dying
person with whom I am sitting. If I am afraid of dying, then the very dying
process of another awakens my fear and inevitably I push that person away so I
can remain safe in my own "not dying" illusion. (80-81)
He goes on to speak
of the disturbing experience of recognizing that he is distancing himself from
the dying patet. He speaks of coming to grips with
his own failure to be open and then describes the process of moving from this
distancing to a sense of compassion: "I go deeper within myself, far
behind my identification and fears, back into awareness, mindful of our
predicament but no longer lost in it. The humanity is there, but so, too, is
the spacious awareness. I have come into love, and I feel the barriers between
me and this other being dissolve" (81).
When self- help books
treat the question of unity, often apparent is some confusion of individuality
and separation with the notion of subjectivity. Again, the message or folk idea
that New Age writers are sending is one that advocates cutting through
subjectivity to see that people are all "the same". under the skin,
all a precious expression of life-even, as Neale Donald Walsch
tells us in Conversations with God: Book 1, an incarnation of the divine-and
all, therefore, worthy of our love. Some of this confusion is apparent in
Barbara Sher's book It's Only Too Late If You Don't Start Now. In discussing
romantic love, she offers the following "exercise" for understanding
how self-centeredness clouds the ability to love people in the more general
sense: To experience real love is to understand that a unique creature,
separate and different from you, is standing in front of you. When you can see
another human that way, you can't help loving him. To do that, however, you
need a stable identity, a sense of knowing who you are, and no desperation in
your heart. ... You can get a very brief glimpse of what I mean if you try this
experiment. Sometime when you’re out in the world, take a look at an ordinary
stranger: a bus driver, or someone sitting near you on a train or in a
restaurant. Spend a few seconds looking at him. Then imagine you just got a
message from the future and found out he was going to die the next day.
Suddenly that person
looks different. In an instant his value becomes clear to you and you see how
unusual and unique he is. It's only a trick you've played on your senses, but
it gives you an idea of how miraculous people will look to you one day, once
you've learned how to see without the fog of self-interest. That's love. The
real thing. To see someone else clearly, not to look into the mirror of your
own desire or to dress up the beloved with the scrim of your favorite fantasy,
or to reinvent him for your own uses. (1998,130-31)
Here, seeing the
other as a separate being seems to be a goal rather than an obstacle, and yet
despite the language used, we are still being coached to see the unity of all
persons and to not, in this case, let our subjectivity deny that unity and
instead substitute a mirror image. We need to escape our own island of
perception and see that we are not the only real person in the universe. Or, as
Jon Kabat-Zinn says in his book Wherever You Go, There You Are, "One
practical way todo this is to look at other people
and ask yourself if you are really seeing them or just your thoughts about
them" (1994,26).
Ideally, one of the
significant contributions that the fields of anthropology and folklore make to
the world is in their promotion of the concept of unity in the midst of
diversity. In general, self-help writers are looking not so much at unity in
the face of cultural differences as at an awareness of unity in the face of a
philosophy of separatism. Even intimate partners who share many aspects"
of culture may feel a sense of alienation, competition, self-centeredness, a
need to withhold or deceive, shame or arrogance, and even violence that comes
from seeing each other as entirely separate. Self-help writers are eager to
offer a philosophy that ties all human beings together, and yet they find it
difficult to suggest practical applications of that idea. Perhaps that is why
James Redfield felt it necessary to offer his insights in the form of a
fictional story. In his second parable, The Tenth Insight, he has one of his
characters, Wil, respond to the narrator's question "Aren't some people
just inherently bad?" with the following comment: No, they just go crazy
in the Fear and make horrible mistakes. And, ultimately, they must bear the
full responsibility of these mistakes. But what has to be understood is that
horrible acts are caused, in part, by our very tendency to assume that some
people are naturally evil. That's the mistaken view that fuels the
polarization. Both sides can't believe humans can act the way they do without
being intrinsically no good, and so they increasingly dehumanize and alienate
each other, which increases the Fear and brings out the worst in everyone.
(1996,134)
And later the same
character adds: "We know that no matter how undesirable the behavior of
others is, we have to grasp that they are just souls attempting to wake up,
like us" (149).
One surprising
application of this awareness of unity is in Peter Senge's popular business
handbook, The Fifth Discipline. Among his many other insights, Senge observes
that "systems thinking" eliminates the need for casting others as
villains. In mastering systems thinking, we giv~ up
the assumption that there must be an individual, or individual agent,
responsible. The feedback perspective sug~ gests that
everyone shares responsibility for problems generated by a system. That doesn't
necessarily imply that everyone involved can exert equal leverage in changing
the system. But it does imply that the search for scapegoats-a particularly
alluring pastime in individualistic cultures such as ours in the United
States-.is a blind alley. (1990,78-79, emphasis in original)
In effect, Senge's
practical advice presupposes a philosophy or folk idea that views all
individuals as interdepenent, as equally tied to the
system that sustains their interactions. From Redfield's rather mystical notion
of unity to Senge's pragmatic one, there is a New Age reinforcement of the idea
of unity and an awareness of its importance in overcoming self-centeredness. It
represents a shift in awareness similar, Senge argues, to that "so
ardently advocated by ecologists in their cries that we see ourselves as part
of nature, not separate from nature" (78). It is the second major folk
idea advanced by the writers of self-help books.
The third folk idea
is tied to the previous two but includes the dimension of time in a new way. In
his book Soul Search, David Darling quotes Albert Einstein to summarize the new
philosophy to which Einstein was so clearly a contributor. A human being is
part of the whole, called by us "Universe"; a part limited in time
and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something
separated from the rest-a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. The
delusion is a prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection
for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this
prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and
the whole of nature in its beauty. Nobody is able to achieve this completely
but the striving for such achievement is, in itself, a part of the liberation
and a foundation for inner security. (1995,134-35)
Einstein saw time as
part of the prison that confines people to a sense of separation and a mistrust
of the universe. He does not offer suggestions one might follow to achieve
release from this "prison" of time, but of course our self-help book
writers do. The most famous articulation of the contrasting folk idea to the
confining awareness of time is Ram Dass's classic
statement in his 1971 book Be Here Now. In The New American Spirituality,
Elizabeth Lesser writes of a meeting between Ram Dass
and Indian-English spiritualist PirVilayat Kahn: At
one of Omega's first programs Ram Dass joined Pir Vilayat and other spiritual teachers to lead a meditation
retreat. I recall a conversation around the dinner table between Ram Dass and Pir Vilayat that I call
the "to be here now or not to be here now" debate. In his erudite
British accent, Pir Vilayat wondered aloud why anyone
would want to only "be here now." "There are so many glorious
planes of existence. The angelic realms are refreshingly different from the one
here, and they are available to us at all times," he argued. "Why not
leave here, and go there? That's what meditation is for."That's
not why I meditate," said Ram Dass. "Well,
I meditate to transcend the experiences of pain and separation of the here and
now. Why remain in our stale, fossilized state of being, when we could dance in
cosmic ecstasy?" Ram Dass, always ready with an
answer, said, "Pain and separation occur when we regret the past or worry
about the future. Here and now is ecstasy. And about those 'glorious planes of
existence'? Those 'angelic realms'? I'm afraid I'm not familiar with
them." (1999,95)
As Ram Dass suggests, problems such as guilt, worry, pain,
alienation, and perhaps even anger and depression may reflect our inability to
"be here now." I would see this third New Age folk idea as
contrasting with the eighth theme above-impatience. In some ways this theme is
second only to individualism as "the" mythic theme of our
culture--like individualism, impatience is viewed with great ambivalence.
Certainly we do not want to be forever worrying or feeling guilty or harried by
the future. We do not want to be forever hurdling, as James Kitchens
says-forever jumping one hurdle after another, always focusing on the next
(1994,39). And yet even many self-help writers speak of the need to control
time. Often lack of creativity or underachievement or dissatisfaction on the
job is linked to the mismanagement of time.
It might seem that a
writer such as Alan Lakein in his book How to Get
Control of Your Time and Your Life is advocating, if not outright impatience,
at least an overseer's manipulation of this quantity-time. But even Lakein, after speaking of ways to better use the time we
have, suggests something very like the notion of "be here now":
I think you will find
that if you arrange things so that you find time to relax and "do
nothing," you will get more done and have more fun doing it.
One client, an aerospace engineer, didn't know how to "do nothing."
Every minute of his leisure time was scheduled with intense activity. He had an
outdoor-activities schedule in which he switched from skiing and ice hockey to
water-skiing and tennis. His girlfriend kept up with him in these activities,
although she would have preferred just to sit by the fire and relax once in a
while. Like too many people, he felt the need to be doing something all the
time-doing nothing seemed a waste of time. His "relaxing by the fire"
consisted of playing chess, reading Scientific American, or playing bridge.
Even . his lovemaking was on a tight schedule. For an experiment I asked him to
"waste" his time for five minutes during one of our sessions
together. What he ended up doing was relaxing, sitting quietly and daydreaming.
When he was finally able to admit that emotional reasons caused him to reject
relaxing as a waste of time, he began to look more criticall)'at
that assumption. Once he accepted the fact that relaxing was a good use of
time, he became less compulsive about being busy and started enjoying each
activity more. (1973,53)
Lakein's "relaxing" may seem a far cry from the
deep, meditative experience of "being" that Ram Dass
and other New Age writers advocate. And yet the experience of "be here
now" is pretty much whatever one makes of it. It is the one folk idea that
is entirely subjective. Jon Kabat-Zinn begins one of his chapters with the
following description of a New Yorker cartoon: "Two Zen monks in robes and
shaved heads, one young, one old, sitting side by side cross-legged on the
floor. The younger one is looking somewhat quizzicallyat
the other one, who is turned toward him and saying: 'Nothing happens next. This
is it'" (1994,14). Kabat-Zinn goes on to say that meditation is not a
"doing" but rather a "being." And this "being"
allows us "to let go of the past and the future and wake up to what we are
now, in this moment." And washed away as well in this experience of
"being here now" are many of the physical ills associated with stress
and anger and, of course, that hallmark of "type A" personalities,
impatience.
One of the more
interesting developments of the "be here now" idea is the expansion
of the general principle of engagement or "mindfulness" into what
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi calls "flow." In his book Finding Flow: The
Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life, Csikszentmihalyi writes of the
"autotelic" personality. Here are some of his observations: Applied
to personality, autotelic denotes an individual who generally does things for
their own sake, rather than in order to achieve some later external goal ....
They are more autonomous and independent, because dIey
cannot be easily manipulated with threats or rewards from the outside. At the
same time, they are more involved with everything around them because they are
fully immersed in the current of life .... If there is one quality that
distinguishes autotelic individuals, it is that their psychic energy seems
inexhaustible. Even though they have no greater attentional capacity than
anyone else, they pay more attention to what happens around them, they notice
more, and they are willing to invest more attention in things for their own
sake without expecting an immediate return. Most of us hoard attention
carefully .... The result is that we don't have much attention left over to
participate in the world on its own terms, to be surprised, to learn new
things, to grow beyond the limits set by our self-centeredness. (1997,
117-18,123)
Flow is not so much a
state achieved through meditation as it is a strong sense of engagement applied
as consistently as possible throughout the day. Studies prove that people
in a "flow" state do not notice the passage of time; they are too
absorbed. As Ram Dass would have it, they are
"being here now." Furthermore, there is no evaluative dimension to
their experiences until those experiences are over. People in a state of flow
recognize their experiences as "ecstatic" or "satisfying"
or "peaceful" only afterward. Like a jazz musician, they avoid
self-consciousness lest they pull themselves out of the "now"
experience and break the frame of engagement. Flow is the difference between
the ecstasy of sex and the victory of conquest; it is the difference between the
high of creative performance and the pride of accomplishment, the rapture of a
religious swoon and the confession of awe and contrition. It is the difference
between the excitement of thinking and the congratulations for impressive
thought.
Csikszentmihalyi
concludes his discussion of the process of finding flow with a reflection on
how being present, being "in flow," can serve the good of humanity:
The more psychic energy we invest in the future of life, the more we become a
part of it. Those who identify with evolution blend their consciousness with
it, like a tiny creek joining an immense river, whose currents become as one.
Hell in this scenario is simply the separation of the individual from the flow
of life. It is clinging to the past, to the self, to the safety of inertia ....
Within an evolutionary framework, we can focus consciousness on the tasks of
everyday life in the knowledge that when we act in the fullness of the flow
experience, we are also building a bridge to the future of our universe. (147)
It is perhaps ironic
that Csikszentmihalyi himself feels compelled to attach a future goal to the
"practice" of flow experiences in the everyday context. The point, of
course, is that these experiences happen for their own sake; people are engaged
not for a reason but for a fact.
Still, Finding Flow,
for all its intellectual complexity and the erudition of its author, is in
effect a self-help book. The writer suggests certain practices that will, if
followed faithfully, lead to a life more replete with experiences of flow and a
more autotelic personality. The three "new" folk ideas of trust,
unity, and "be here now" come through in Csikszentmihalyi's book as
clearly as in many of the other books written in response to the "old"
themes of fear, control, competition, judgment, dishonesty, individualism or
separation, violence, and impatience. These are the aspects of worldview
examined, challenged, and interpreted by the self-help book writers. These are
the ideas that are in the culture and used by self-help authors in what
seems to be an entirely acceptable "creative cultural plagiarism." No
one will fault even three hundred self- help authors for all offering their
readers the traditional advice “let go" and trust the universe.
Conclusion P.1: The
field of folklore has always had to contend with bridging the chasm between the
"public" and the "private." In considering the role of
self-help books in the process of self-education and especially in the process
of building a personal philosophy, we must move constantly between these two
arenas. The larger cultural frame of reference is the source of many ideas and
materials that writers and readers use in creating or reading a self- help
book, and yet it is the individual reader who uses such books in the private
task of building a personal philosophy. As mentioned earlier, Jay Mechling has suggested we borrow the concept of
"mediating structures" in our efforts to understand how concrete
artifacts and specific experiences relate to and interact with abstract
American culture. He reminds us, in fact, that "Americans never experience
abstract 'American culture'" (1989,347). Instead, we might view self- help
books as "mediating artifacts" that allow us to see how abstract,
impersonal ideas in the culture become a part of an individual's private
philosophy. In their desire for self-education, people engage personally with
each self-help book they read, and they allow these books to mediate between
the values of the culture (both those values about which we cringe and those
the writers would have us choose) and their personal values. Through the
process of reading self-help books, readers "experience" abstract
American culture concretely, personally. Each writer serves as a private mentor
even as he or she writes in a public domain.
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